Online videos are changing sex and relationships

The Big Change: Sex in the Last 30 Years

In India, talking about sex was always very quiet and private. People mostly thought of sex only for having babies and married life.

But in the last 30 years, everything changed. The internet, cheap smartphones, and free porn videos came to everyone. This brought a huge amount of sexual pictures and videos right into our hands.

For the Indian mind, where sex is often linked to shame and secrecy, this big change is causing new problems for our minds, bodies, and relationships.

How Free Porn Changes Us

Porn videos are easy to find and watch again and again. Because of this, our minds and bodies learn to expect certain things from sex.

1. The Mind: False Ideas and Feeling Bad

Pornography is a performance. It shows perfect bodies and sex that is very fast and dramatic. This can give us wrong ideas about real sex.

• Unreal Expectations: We start expecting our partners and sex life to be like the videos. This can make us feel unhappy with our real partner or cause stress about how well we perform in bed.

• Hiding and Guilt: In our culture, watching porn often makes people feel very guilty and ashamed. They keep it a secret. This hiding makes the shame worse and can make them watch more.

2. The Body: Not Getting Excited Easily

When we watch very strong, exciting videos too much, our brain gets used to it.

• Needing More to Get Excited: The brain starts needing stronger and newer videos to feel aroused. Our body stops reacting to the gentle, real-life touch of a partner.

• Trouble with a Partner (Performance Issues): For some people, this change in the brain can lead to trouble getting hard or staying hard during sex with a real partner. The simple, real-life experience is not enough to excite the brain anymore.

• Old Worries: Old Indian beliefs about “losing power” or “semen loss” (like Dhat Syndrome) can get worse because of too much masturbation linked to porn. This causes strong, often unnecessary, physical worry.

3. Our Actions: Hurting Real Relationships

When a person watches too much porn, especially if they hide it, it harms their relationships.

• Secrets Break Trust: Hiding the habit from a spouse or partner kills trust and closeness. The partner often feels compared to the videos, feeling like they are not good enough or loved.

• Confusing Reality: For people who learned about sex from these videos, they might start thinking that the way sex is shown in porn (which is often harsh or rough) is how real sex should be. This can lead to bad behavior and a lack of respect for their partner’s feelings.