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TIPS FOR SEXUAL HEALTH AND HAPPINESS

Today's older adults are active, on the go, and still doing many of the things they enjoyed in their younger years. That includes enjoying sex and intimate relationships.

Like adults of all ages, you probably want to continue intimacy with your partner and share your life in a fulfilling relationship.

A healthy sexual relationship can positively affect all aspects of your life, including your physical health and self-esteem.

Though movies and television might tell you that intimacy and sex are only for younger adults, that isn't true. The need for intimacy is ageless.

You'll never outgrow your need for affection, emotional closeness, and intimate love. Most people still have sexual fantasies and desires well into their 70s and 80s. Sex may not be the same as it was in your 20s, but that doesn't mean intimacy can no longer be as fulfilling or enjoyable.

Natural changes as you age affect intimacy

As you know, your body changes as you age, and these changes can affect your sexual relationships and your ability to maintain intimacy with your partner. Although your body's physical changes are the changes most often discussed, psychological issues factor in, too.

Physical changes

Testosterone regulates your sex drive whether you're a man or a woman. And most aging men and women produce enough testosterone to maintain their interest in sex. Although your body will go through changes that may make some aspects of sex more difficult as you age, these changes give you a reason to try new positions and techniques.

Men and women experience different changes in their bodies as they age: -

Women. Most physical changes in your body are linked to menopause and reduced estrogen levels. As you age, it takes longer for your vagina to swell and lubricate when you're sexually aroused. Your vagina also loses elasticity. Together these can make intercourse less comfortable or even painful.

You might also feel a burning sensation during vaginal penetration or discover vaginal bleeding afterward. Longer foreplay sometimes helps stimulate your natural lubrication. You can try a water-based lubricant; vaginal penetration helps maintain lubrication and elasticity if done regularly. If you haven't had sex for a while, talk to your partner about taking it slowly to minimize your pain or opt for other ways to be intimate.

Men. As you age, it might take you longer to achieve an erection. Your erections may be less firm and may not last as long. Aging also increases the time between possible ejaculations. Trying different positions may make inserting your penis easier for you and your partner.

Talk to our doctor if you're having problems maintaining an erection or reaching orgasm. He can help you adapt to these changes. Our doctor can discuss medications that can help you achieve and maintain an erection

Psychological changes

Maintaining your ability to have sex as your age depends on your mind as much as your body. If you're embarrassed or ashamed of your sexual needs as an older adult, your anxiety can affect your ability to become aroused.

Changes in your appearance might also affect your emotional ability to connect. As you notice more wrinkles and grey hairs, you might feel less attractive. A poor body image reduces your sex drive because you don't feel worthy of sexual attention from your partner.

The stress of worrying too much about how you'll perform can trigger impotence in men or a lack of arousal in women. Taking things slowly can help you avoid this pressure.

Talk to your partner about your anxiety; He or she can offer reassurance.

Improving sex as you age

Many older adults say their sex lives improve as they age. You can too improve your sex life and that requires more communication with your partner and small changes both of you can make, including:

Expand your definition of sex. Sex is more than vaginal penetration. As you age, other options might be more comfortable and more fulfilling. Touch can be a good alternative to intercourse. It can simply mean holding each other. It can also mean sensual massage, masturbation, or oral sex.

Communicate with your partner. Communication brings you and your partner closer together. Discuss the changes you're going through and what your partner can do to accommodate you during sex. Maybe a different position makes sex easier for you, or other sexual activities, such as massage or cuddling, might interest you. Ask your partner about his or her needs and ways that you can also be accommodating and Communication itself can be arousing.

Make changes to your routine. Simple changes can improve your sex life. Change the time of day when you have sex to a time when you have the most energy. Try the morning — when you're refreshed from a good night's sleep — rather than at the end of a long day. Because it might take longer for you to become aroused, take more time to set the stage for romance, such as a romantic dinner. Try a new sexual position. You might find one that's more comfortable for you and your partner.

Manage your expectations. If you didn't have sex very often as a younger adult, don't expect to have lots of sex as an older adult. Maybe you and your partner expressed your intimacy in other ways when you were younger. Partners who enjoy frequent sex when they're younger are more likely to continue that as they age.

Take care of yourself. A healthy diet and regular exercise keep your body finely tuned. This keeps you ready for sex at any age. Eat a balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables. Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day, most days of the week. Avoid alcohol, as excessive use decreases sexual function in both men and women. Illegal drugs such as marijuana and cocaine impair sexual function, also.

Remember to practice safe sex. Many older adults don't do this because they think they aren't at risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including AIDS. Contrary to popular belief, AIDS is not a younger person's disease. People over 50 make up about 19 percent of AIDS cases. All sexually active people — no matter what age — can contract sexually transmitted diseases. Stay monogamous with your partner or practice safe sex by using condoms.

Believe it or not, one of a man's biggest turn-ons is a woman turning on herself. Be free to express yourself and your feelings when you make love, while sex is great without any enhancements, it can be worthwhile to try a few new things, the next time you plan on making love, find lingerie that hides it or greatly compliments another feature. Confidence is a great aphrodisiac and is easier to attain in the bedroom when you look great! Spray a light scented fragrance and put on some soft music. Ambiance can heighten just about any romantic situation.

Talk to our doctor if you have concerns

You might be embarrassed to discuss sex with our doctor. But consultation with our doctor can help you understand the changes your body goes through as you age and how these changes affect your sexual activity.

The human body is a wonderful creation of God; it will not run better on high octane oil or any potency drug. Nature is the greatest doctor in itself and Unani is a branch of complete Medical Science that gives the cure to diseases with natural herbs.

Sexual desire is a gift from God, just like all other desires that He has built into us. It is not our fault that we get aroused by sexual thoughts. These are built-in physiology. To have a legitimate outlet for this built-in desire, God has created mates for us.

The desire to have a better sexual performance for men is again, not a new obsession... Impotency is a disease and should be dealt with as any disease.

Thus, before physicians start a new treatment, we find out the cause for impotency which could be vascular, neurogenic, infection, diabetes, or hormonal deficiency.

In addition, if the mental stimulation is not present before, then sex medication alone will not achieve the desired results as the brain is the most important sex organ.

Until 1998, when Viagra was discovered Western sexologists believed that sex was all mind game. Noted psychologist Freud said, 'All you need for sex is just a naughty thought'. But as researchers in the field of sex progressed, they began to realize and recognize that every sexual problem has two aspects i.e. organic and psychogenic.

Organic means that a sexual problem has occurred due to some trouble in the urinogenital system of the body or the arteries of sex organs.

Psychogenic means that the root cause is only due to thinking in a wrong way about sex and sexual response. But on the above, Unani, the centuries-old medicinal science, has already diagnosed and categorized these sexual problems in its books and also given proper drugs which if used in the right combination can eradicate the sexual problem from its root.

Please pay attention...

Patients who may have underlying coronary artery disease, and who have not been actively involved in sex, should be screened first for coronary artery disease before using Viagra. About 20% of men have died during sexual intercourse after taking Viagra

Unani medicines permanently and effectively cure every sexual ailment, even sterility in women. Unlike modern medicines like Viagra and its Indian variants which have harmful side effects, Unani also improves the general health of the person.